Stress, Long Hours & Weight Gain

Today's post is about physical health, something I have been struggling with for almost two years, while in consulting and now banking.


3 Lessons from Year 1 in the Real World




September 1, 2017 was my first day of work.

This day last year, I was getting ready for my first day in consulting. I was more relaxed than ever after a three-month vacation in Seoul but also incredibly nervous to start my first job out of college.

Fast forward a year later to September 1, 2018, I can officially say that my first year in the real world was pretty hectic. 8 months of consulting and 4 months of investment banking. 12 months of traveling, late nights, and hustling. It was easily the most challenging year of my life, in both good and bad ways. In this post, I want to highlight three key lessons I learned this past year.

Boyish Chic

I had plans to go to Soho to buy work clothes but woke up with extreme bed hair that just could not be fixed without a fresh shower. Lazily, I decided I would just cover it up with a hat. What to wear with a hat? One of my favorite go-to outfits of course: a crisp white button-down shirt and boyfriend jeans. 

Necklace: Van Cleef & Arpels | Purse: Prada 

Consultant Turned Investment Banker

Goodbye, consulting. Hello, investment banking!

Blazer: Theory (similar) | Dress: Diane Von Furstenberg (similar) | Shoes: Sam Edelman (similar)

After eight months of consulting, I am excited to start the second chapter of my career as an investment banking analyst at an elite boutique investment bank.

Stronger

As April comes along, I want to reflect on some thoughts that ran through my head a lot in March, which was an incredibly busy yet productive month for me.

Trench Coat: Burberry | Blouse: Club Monaco | Jeans: Rag & Bone (old, similar)
Necklace: Van Cleef & Arpels (similar) | Purse: Prada

Sweet SoHo Sunday

One aspect I enjoy about living in New York is how easily accessible my favorite dessert places are. When my sister, who has a huge sweet tooth, came to visit, we spent a Sunday in SoHo, shopping and stopping by any place that looked delicious.

Trench Coat: Burberry | Sunglasses: Prada | Cardigan: Comme des Garcons
Necklace: Van Cleef & Arpels (similar) | Purse: Prada

Officially a New Yorker!

Dress: Club Monaco (on sale!) | Necklace: Van Cleef & Arpels | Watch: Cartier

Hello, New York, New York!

I don't think I have ever been so excited about a blog post, but here I am, unable to contain my excitement about my recent move to New York. The past couple weeks have been incredibly stressful, with balancing work and apartment hunting in Manhattan, but it all came through after lots of prayers (and tears)...

After living in Boston for literally less than five months, I moved to New York. Boston is an absolutely wonderful city, and it was a great place to start the first (albeit short) chapter of my post-grad life. However, moving to New York was a change I knew I had to make for personal and professional reasons.

Most consulting engagements require being at the client site Monday-Thursday, but I was working on two projects in NYC from Monday to Friday, so "living" in Boston made no sense — and by "living," I mean flying into Boston around 10 or 11pm on Friday night, sleeping in/packing on Saturday, only to fly back to New York on Sunday afternoon, which was starting to affect my health as well. Also, most of my professional network and everyone I want to meet is in NYC, so overall, it was a better decision for my career.

Another big motivator for my move to NYC was loneliness. I have no personal connection to Boston whatsoever, since I did not grow up or attend school in the area. When I met up with friends in NYC after work, I was reminded of the importance of being physically close to your loved ones. It truly makes a huge difference on one's happiness and mental health.

What I thought was the most interesting about my nomadic experience was how much I was craving an emotional connection to a place at the end of the day. I was barely at my studio in Boston, so it never felt warm or "inviting" when I came back on Friday nights. Even when I was at the hotel, I wasn't able to truly relax because at the back of my mind were thoughts like, "I have to get XYZ things done before late check out on Friday..." 

Being in NYC gives me more freedom, time, and flexibility to invest in my personal life and career. Thank you to my wonderful friends who encouraged me to make this decision while also providing emotional support as I adjusted to my career.

Most importantly, thank you SO much to everyone in Boston who made my transition to the real world a smooth one. As happy as I am to start the next chapter of my life in New York, I want to thank you for understanding and empathizing with my tough social circumstances and including me in your tight-knit Boston community. No words could ever suffice in expressing my appreciation to you all.

Best,
Phyllis


SHOP MY OUTFIT

2018 is My Year

Parka: Moncler | Purse: Gucci | Boots: Stuart Weitzman (old, similar)

Happy New Year!